it's just lunch!

May 10th, 2009

I want everyone to say hi to Mr Hottie.

Ready?

All in Unison.

1, 2, 3

"HI MR HOTTIE!"

Mr Hottie reads my blog.  He likes me in a friend kinda way.  He said an awful lot of nice things to me over our phone call tonight. 

Like what you ask?

He does not like to see me hurt. He wishes things were better.  Wishes he could make it all better.  He is also wondering what is going on with "him".  However after seeing Fireproof the movie he agrees it was a bull shit move.

Anyways, Mr Hottie & I talked on the phone for well over an hour.

He has a girlfriend.  We will never hook up.

However he asked me to lunch.  I told him yes, IF he pays and IF he talks to his girlfriend and gets her OK.

I doubt we will go to lunch.  Who wants their boyfriend to go to lunch with a friend that calls him Mr Hottie???

Mr Builder VS Mr Big Man … Is Mr Hottie back?

December 12th, 2008
My date with Mr Builder was nice. We met at a fancy Italian restaurant at 5:30 on Wednesday. We stayed there the whole time. I had to leave at 7:15 to pick my daughter from her father's house. The conversation was easy. It flowed very well. There was a lot of sharing and a lot of laughter. We do not seem to have a lot in common with our hobbies but we can see each other's point of view.
There were no sparks. However I have such a good time with him I want to continue to see him. I gave HIM a kiss good-bye. For some reason I take the lead that way with him. After leaving, I called him and talked with him on the phone up until I pulled into the driveway at the X's house. Again conversation is so easy. He lives in the big city an hour from here. This was our 3rd date. First was in a town between us, second he took off of work for 3 HOURS to have a lunch date with me and then he came to my town on Wednesday.
My date with Mr Big Man was wonderful. We met at a Mexican joint on Thursday at 6:30 close to where I live. We left there to buy pet food at PetsMart! This idea came to us because we both needed pet food and thought it was a good idea to combine a quick errand in the date. After PetsMart we went to Barnes & Noble. There we had hot chocolate and dessert. Again the conversation was easy and he would say something and I was like "me TOO" or vice versa. Very odd how much we are alike. We do have major differences but they are complementary differences. He gave me several "side hugs" at Barnes. There are sparks between us. At the end of the date he pulled me to him and gave me the kiss. 3 of them mind you! I like it when the man takes control. I was happy and tempted to ask him to follow me to my house. I did not however. This our 2nd date. First was in his hometown, 30 minutes away. 3rd date is Saturday night.
Pros: Mr Builder: Goes out of his way to spend time with me. Has the free time to spend with me. Strong emotionally.
Pros: Mr Big Man: Sparks. A lot in common. Wonderful father. Giver. Told me he "said a prayer to the Big Man (that would be God, not him, hehe) that everything is OK with the boobies". Patient. Takes control of the physical stuff. Knows about some of my pink baggage w/ polka dots and it does not faze him. My sex drive sings to him.
Cons: Mr Builder: No sparks. Too healthy (runs 4 miles 5 days a week and goes to gym for several hours 5 days a week). No children. Touch nerdy!!! haha. Can not bring myself to tell him anything about any of my pink baggage with polka dots.
Cons: Mr Big Man: TALL 6'4, I feel like a midget. His X-wife was a doozy and she is bi-polar - for real, I am not going into detail but it is a con.
Equal: both are into me. Both do not live in my town. Both are easy to talk to. Both have great careers and have made sound business moves. Both divorced. Both would like children. Both 40. Both are close to their family & love their mothers. Neither controlling and very go with the flow-y.
Alright, so I joined Facebook. I found people. People are finding me. Mr Hottie found me. Invited me as a friend and then sent me an email telling me his girlfriend is not over her X and they are having issues with it. HMMMM.
So out of the 6 I am down to 2. That's my story. And I'm sticking to it.

eenie meenie minie moe

October 14th, 2008
You should see my inbox.
Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie, Mr P, Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie, Mr P, Mr Hottie, Mr P, Mr P, Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie
It's nice to be wanted by 2 men. 2 Sexy men. 2 Sexy men that are powerful in their jobs. I have come to find I am attracted to powerful men. Not normally a good thing but with these 2 men they are not on power trips and are very down to earth.
Wait! I know what you are thinking. How did Mr Hottie get back in the picture? Well I am still on eHarmony and we were matched up!
It sickens me that I am doing this. I can not sleep with a man and talk with someone else. It's not fair to either. I want Mr P. I am so into him. I am not into what he said. Do you go off what they say or their actions?
Mr P calls me every day. He sounds super happy when he hears my voice. He sees me every chance he can. He emails me. He texts me. The passion. What he does to me.
I remember some things with Mr Hottie. I think we talked most nights. I liked him & I was attracted to him but I did not go for it because I was still emotional over my X. I was only away from him for 2 months or so when Mr Hottie came into the picture. I asked Mr Hottie why we stopped talking, he said he met someone else and became (you gotta love this word) EXCLUSIVE with her. He went that way for he spent more time with her but he did like me. He completed the eHarmony questions to my satisfaction and I bet I have 30 emails from him ... all in a 24 hour period.
I feel I am using Mr Hottie to feel better about Mr P's rejection of me. BUT HE DID NOT reject me. He still wants me. Just not exclusive.
Mr P is not into games. Hates them. Gets upset if he sees them being played ... that is the best way to describe it.
One of my best friends told me not to tell Mr P anything. Just let is slide. Don't sleep with him and come up with excuses why. Because if I do it will push him in a corner and he will run. I agree most men are this way. Not all but most. If I do not give it to him he will want me more and then want to become exclusive with me ... per her.
The word exclusive is a much better word then boyfriend / girlfriend.
He does not like games. Communication is key. I am still afraid to tell him for I do not want him to run.
What do I do?
I feel guilty as hell for talking to Mr Hottie. I do not want to continue either for I feel so bad. However I also desire to protect myself. It all comes down to 100% me and 50% from him ... not cool. Not cool at all.

I'm not ready

Early May 2007
Latest news? Mr Hottie called me and brought up the fact he was dating others. This I knew. He said he had something to tell me. He has gone exclusive with another. He is sorry. He really likes me but things progressed faster with the other lady.
I laughed. I am OK with this. I am not ready to date. This was a relief.
I told him it was nice knowing him. Good Luck with everything & take care.
Time to take care of myself so I will be ready next time.
I canceled all dating web sites.

Going to Hawaii

April 2007.
Time to set up the 2nd date. I have a work dinner I need to go to and we are asked to bring our husbands / boyfriends / supporters. Hmm, we are not boyfriend / girlfriend. He is not really my supporter. Who cares! I will ask him to go anyways! He accepts.
I go to this house to pick him up. He has a nice house. He shows me his son's bedroom and the HUGE bed he made for him. This bed is a giant and takes up a whole wall. I get a sneak peak at him bedroom too!
We head off to the dinner / meeting. We get there and all my co-workers / friends know I am single. They pull me aside one at a time or quadruple team me to ask "Who is he? He is a good looking man!"
I correct them "He is Mr Hottie!". They agree. I get thumbs up. I get high fives. Damn, I knew he was hot but I did not realize how many people would like him too.
And he likes me!
The meeting is terribly boring. However there is talk about the team going to Hawaii. If we do well enough we can bring out supporters too. I look at him. He looks at me.
He says "So when do we go to Hawaii?" I think we wink at each other.
During the drive home I ask him if he is going to kiss me after the date. He thinks this is a riot. Dare a girl as for a kiss? This one seems to.
We kissed good night and off I went. I know he likes me. I know he is dating others. I know we get along.
We talk about sex on the phone. DUH! Not a lot. Just let him know I like it. I think about it. I want it.
But I do not think I am ready yet. My several year relationship just ended in February and this is only April. I do not think I am ready.
But damn am I horny.

It's easy to leave for lunch

It is now the end of March, beginning of April 2007.
Mr Hottie & I email back and forth for several weeks. It is fun, it is flirty, it is good.
We need to meet in person. I email him and say "Buy me lunch! It's cheaper than dinner. We have a time limit - so we do not need to make up a lie as to why we need to leave if things get scary. I mean, we have to get back to work! AND it's daylight so we see the real person not the fake one with the special glow from low lights. What do you think?"
He agrees, we decide on Bennigans. He is better looking in person. Much better. Pictures do NOT do him justice. His eyes! His LIPS. Oh my word. Delicious.And he has a great body. This man is freaking HOT. His nickname fits him very well.
After lunch I get a text that I have a great ass.
That makes me smile.
I do have a great ass!
I shall have to see him again I think.
During our phone calls I imagine what it would be like. How aggressive is he? How much in control? I have a pretty good size sex drive but I usually do not have sex right away. How long should we wait?

March 2007

March 2007.
I am single. I think I am going to try Internet dating. I am in my late 20's. I am looking to have fun and if I meet the right man that would be perfect.
The first thing I am going to do is sign up for Match.com. One month.After browsing I found several people that looked interesting and I wanted to know more.
But wait, what is this?
I can be really blunt at times. You will learn this.
Looking at pics on Match, I stopped on one and said "DAMN he is hot!" Then I kept going. I did not open his profile up and read it until later. I liked it but did not think we were a match. Why? Because the man is flippin HOT. He must be vain. He must want tall chicks with long blonde hair and blue eyes.Not me. I am short. Brown hair with brown eyes. I need those stilettos. I work them!
I am gonna email him. I shall call him Mr Hottie.
Damn he is hot!