November 17th, 2008
Oh my word! I have hit the jackpot. I said I was jumping into the dating world and I have! Cannon Ball style. Did you FEEL the splash?
There are men, men, men ... all into me and I am chatting with them like crazy. Yummy.
Right now I have narrowed it down to 6. YES, that is with a narrowed down list!!
I have Brian, Brian, Navy Man, The Professor, Mr Big Man and Mr Builder.
I have had LONG talks on the phone with Mr Big Man. We are talking hours here. Almost every night. There goes my sleep. I tell him my secrets. I am happy talking to him. Everything seems so relaxed and we get along fabulously. I met him on Plenty of Fish (POF). He is a project manager. The reason why I gave him this nickname is because he is TALL! 6'4 tall. I am 5'. Also he calls his son Little Man. I like this man but I don't know if we will "fit". hehe
I also email during the day and talk most evenings (before Mr Big Man's phone calls) to Navy Man. WOW. He flirts outrageously with me. The things he says! Shameful!! He is so damn funny. I am laughing almost the whole conversation. I also met him on POF. He is in the Navy - could you tell with the nickname?? I am so entertained with him. Before I even open his emails I am already laughing. They are just so funny.
The Professor. We have a lot in common. Everything is easy going. I do not talk to him much but he sends me very witty and fun emails. I met him on eHarmony and he is a Professor at a State College here. He loves that I read ... I love to read and I can tell I will learn so much for him.
Mr Builder coming along next. Whoa. This man is into me! He moves mountains to see me. He is an architect and I met him on eHarmony. He lives about 45 minutes from me. We also chat on email a lot.
And we have Brian and Brian. That is their name! Honestly with everything going on with Mr Big Man, The Professor, Navy Man and The Builder ... I have no more time. I want to get to know the Brians but I am only one person. So after this I will need to cut them loose. Write a Dear John letter. Hey! I will be down to 4.
I have dates lined up every free spot I can find. I have double booked dates on the same days - 1 in the morning and 1 in the evening. I have lunch dates. I am a dating whore!
Yes I take notes. Yes I forget what I said to one and not the other. Yes I say "was that you who told me ...". Yes I have been wrong! Yes they all know I am dating others.
So far everything is over the phone and email. I am worried about the chemistry. Hopefully I have something with one of them.
Dates start tomorrow!!!
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Thursday, February 12, 2009
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
game plan with dating
November 9th, 2008
I love game plans. I must be very goal oriented.
OK. The current status is I am still dealing with Mr P. I am not over him. I have been told by many to follow my gut. My gut tells me to believe him. In truth this makes me feel better about myself.
I wrote a long email last night to him. Yelling at him. Asking him what kind of person bails when life gets stressful. I just wrote it like I was talking to him. Lots of yelling. hehe. Regardless one line was "If it really is true and you can not cope at this time, then what I just did by sending you this email is the worst thing I could do to you." I did not send the email. It's sitting in my drafts.
I wrote it about 8PM last night. I felt so much better about everything. I got the last word in and "called him out" without him knowing. I am not going to wait for him but if he calls me or writes me I would have a talk with him regarding this and I would give him another chance.
Oh and Melissa S, thank you for being my text saver. I was able to send you such off the wall texts and you accepted them for what they were. Thank you so much.
I decided to renew my eHarmony account for another 3 months. It now ends the end of February. I also decided to sign up on Plenty of Fish - got that idea from a Single over 30s group on CafeMom. Within minutes I had emails & IM requests. I am not down with the IM but I said yes to one. It was a fun conversation and it cheered me up more.
I am going to go full force with dating others. I will contact everyone that meets my BASIC requirements (not to far away, has a job, wants kids, knows I have my daughter, non smoker, no drugs, NOT MARRIED) and run with it.
I may contact Mr P in December to see how he is. I feel this is what I should do. If he was honest I should give him another shot. I am figuring December because I know one major issue will be resolved by then. I set a tickler for that date so I will not be thinking about it daily. My gut tells me he was being honest. My gut is also telling me to get out there JUST IN CASE he was being honest but he is still broken.
GUT (I say to myself) please do not screw with me on this! I have a game plan and I am working on it. I like the fact I did a tickler so if I do meet someone and I am into them then I will not do anything about it. I will smile and say "Darling Nikki, thank your Gut". Either way, I think this is the right thing for me.
So I am off to surf Plenty of fish. Hmmm, you over there, how you are doing?
I love game plans. I must be very goal oriented.
OK. The current status is I am still dealing with Mr P. I am not over him. I have been told by many to follow my gut. My gut tells me to believe him. In truth this makes me feel better about myself.
I wrote a long email last night to him. Yelling at him. Asking him what kind of person bails when life gets stressful. I just wrote it like I was talking to him. Lots of yelling. hehe. Regardless one line was "If it really is true and you can not cope at this time, then what I just did by sending you this email is the worst thing I could do to you." I did not send the email. It's sitting in my drafts.
I wrote it about 8PM last night. I felt so much better about everything. I got the last word in and "called him out" without him knowing. I am not going to wait for him but if he calls me or writes me I would have a talk with him regarding this and I would give him another chance.
Oh and Melissa S, thank you for being my text saver. I was able to send you such off the wall texts and you accepted them for what they were. Thank you so much.
I decided to renew my eHarmony account for another 3 months. It now ends the end of February. I also decided to sign up on Plenty of Fish - got that idea from a Single over 30s group on CafeMom. Within minutes I had emails & IM requests. I am not down with the IM but I said yes to one. It was a fun conversation and it cheered me up more.
I am going to go full force with dating others. I will contact everyone that meets my BASIC requirements (not to far away, has a job, wants kids, knows I have my daughter, non smoker, no drugs, NOT MARRIED) and run with it.
I may contact Mr P in December to see how he is. I feel this is what I should do. If he was honest I should give him another shot. I am figuring December because I know one major issue will be resolved by then. I set a tickler for that date so I will not be thinking about it daily. My gut tells me he was being honest. My gut is also telling me to get out there JUST IN CASE he was being honest but he is still broken.
GUT (I say to myself) please do not screw with me on this! I have a game plan and I am working on it. I like the fact I did a tickler so if I do meet someone and I am into them then I will not do anything about it. I will smile and say "Darling Nikki, thank your Gut". Either way, I think this is the right thing for me.
So I am off to surf Plenty of fish. Hmmm, you over there, how you are doing?
Monday, February 9, 2009
October 31st, 2008
Do you pay attention to words or actions?
This has been a roller coaster week. I have been walking on egg shells. I feel like I am with my X all over again. I do not like this.
Mr P calls me every day. He sees me every chance he can. We go to lunch often.
Correction, that was the case. It kinda stopped on Sunday (today is Friday).
I am itchin to see him but I am refusing to call. I know he is stressed but to do this is wrong. He has pushed me and pushed me to be on the same level with him and now this??
Alright, let's dance Mr P. Shoulders back, arms up, head straight ... this I thought.
On Tuesday he closed our match out on eHarmony. Why? I emailed him and he called me right away. Laughing. He thought it was funny. Said he did it on Sunday but I just now saw it. Said he was happy to talk to me. He misses me. He thinks about me. He can't wait to see me again. Oh how he misses me.
But he did not schedule a date. This is from a guy that REFUSED to let me leave him until I scheduled the next date.
His words are there but his actions say he is gone, gone, gone.
I had my wisdom teeth removed today. I look like I was hit with the ugly stick. I was hit several times.
But I feel wise now. I think I need to pay attention to the actions.
Do you pay attention to words or actions?
This has been a roller coaster week. I have been walking on egg shells. I feel like I am with my X all over again. I do not like this.
Mr P calls me every day. He sees me every chance he can. We go to lunch often.
Correction, that was the case. It kinda stopped on Sunday (today is Friday).
I am itchin to see him but I am refusing to call. I know he is stressed but to do this is wrong. He has pushed me and pushed me to be on the same level with him and now this??
Alright, let's dance Mr P. Shoulders back, arms up, head straight ... this I thought.
On Tuesday he closed our match out on eHarmony. Why? I emailed him and he called me right away. Laughing. He thought it was funny. Said he did it on Sunday but I just now saw it. Said he was happy to talk to me. He misses me. He thinks about me. He can't wait to see me again. Oh how he misses me.
But he did not schedule a date. This is from a guy that REFUSED to let me leave him until I scheduled the next date.
His words are there but his actions say he is gone, gone, gone.
I had my wisdom teeth removed today. I look like I was hit with the ugly stick. I was hit several times.
But I feel wise now. I think I need to pay attention to the actions.
Friday, February 6, 2009
eenie meenie minie moe
October 14th, 2008
You should see my inbox.
Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie, Mr P, Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie, Mr P, Mr Hottie, Mr P, Mr P, Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie
It's nice to be wanted by 2 men. 2 Sexy men. 2 Sexy men that are powerful in their jobs. I have come to find I am attracted to powerful men. Not normally a good thing but with these 2 men they are not on power trips and are very down to earth.
Wait! I know what you are thinking. How did Mr Hottie get back in the picture? Well I am still on eHarmony and we were matched up!
It sickens me that I am doing this. I can not sleep with a man and talk with someone else. It's not fair to either. I want Mr P. I am so into him. I am not into what he said. Do you go off what they say or their actions?
Mr P calls me every day. He sounds super happy when he hears my voice. He sees me every chance he can. He emails me. He texts me. The passion. What he does to me.
I remember some things with Mr Hottie. I think we talked most nights. I liked him & I was attracted to him but I did not go for it because I was still emotional over my X. I was only away from him for 2 months or so when Mr Hottie came into the picture. I asked Mr Hottie why we stopped talking, he said he met someone else and became (you gotta love this word) EXCLUSIVE with her. He went that way for he spent more time with her but he did like me. He completed the eHarmony questions to my satisfaction and I bet I have 30 emails from him ... all in a 24 hour period.
I feel I am using Mr Hottie to feel better about Mr P's rejection of me. BUT HE DID NOT reject me. He still wants me. Just not exclusive.
Mr P is not into games. Hates them. Gets upset if he sees them being played ... that is the best way to describe it.
One of my best friends told me not to tell Mr P anything. Just let is slide. Don't sleep with him and come up with excuses why. Because if I do it will push him in a corner and he will run. I agree most men are this way. Not all but most. If I do not give it to him he will want me more and then want to become exclusive with me ... per her.
The word exclusive is a much better word then boyfriend / girlfriend.
He does not like games. Communication is key. I am still afraid to tell him for I do not want him to run.
What do I do?
I feel guilty as hell for talking to Mr Hottie. I do not want to continue either for I feel so bad. However I also desire to protect myself. It all comes down to 100% me and 50% from him ... not cool. Not cool at all.
You should see my inbox.
Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie, Mr P, Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie, Mr P, Mr Hottie, Mr P, Mr P, Mr Hottie, Mr Hottie
It's nice to be wanted by 2 men. 2 Sexy men. 2 Sexy men that are powerful in their jobs. I have come to find I am attracted to powerful men. Not normally a good thing but with these 2 men they are not on power trips and are very down to earth.
Wait! I know what you are thinking. How did Mr Hottie get back in the picture? Well I am still on eHarmony and we were matched up!
It sickens me that I am doing this. I can not sleep with a man and talk with someone else. It's not fair to either. I want Mr P. I am so into him. I am not into what he said. Do you go off what they say or their actions?
Mr P calls me every day. He sounds super happy when he hears my voice. He sees me every chance he can. He emails me. He texts me. The passion. What he does to me.
I remember some things with Mr Hottie. I think we talked most nights. I liked him & I was attracted to him but I did not go for it because I was still emotional over my X. I was only away from him for 2 months or so when Mr Hottie came into the picture. I asked Mr Hottie why we stopped talking, he said he met someone else and became (you gotta love this word) EXCLUSIVE with her. He went that way for he spent more time with her but he did like me. He completed the eHarmony questions to my satisfaction and I bet I have 30 emails from him ... all in a 24 hour period.
I feel I am using Mr Hottie to feel better about Mr P's rejection of me. BUT HE DID NOT reject me. He still wants me. Just not exclusive.
Mr P is not into games. Hates them. Gets upset if he sees them being played ... that is the best way to describe it.
One of my best friends told me not to tell Mr P anything. Just let is slide. Don't sleep with him and come up with excuses why. Because if I do it will push him in a corner and he will run. I agree most men are this way. Not all but most. If I do not give it to him he will want me more and then want to become exclusive with me ... per her.
The word exclusive is a much better word then boyfriend / girlfriend.
He does not like games. Communication is key. I am still afraid to tell him for I do not want him to run.
What do I do?
I feel guilty as hell for talking to Mr Hottie. I do not want to continue either for I feel so bad. However I also desire to protect myself. It all comes down to 100% me and 50% from him ... not cool. Not cool at all.
Thursday, February 5, 2009
in the shower
October 11th, 2008
What a doozie. I saw Mr P last night after the Passion Party. For my friends that were at the Passion Party - you got a laugh when I RAN out the door due to a text that his children were in bed and I could come over. Kinda desperate but HE did not see it. Only y'all. And yes, I heard the laughter when I was getting in my car! Thanks!!
He gets me all worked up.
Well I did find out we are not exclusive. I am only seeing him at this point.
Yes I am serious. Yes it is shady. Yes it upsets me. Sigh ... yes I still want him.
I am so into him.
After THAT talk, he asked me to get into the shower. I was turned away from him. He washed me. I have taken showers with men in the past but it was either all about sex or all about saving time and getting washed quickly. I have never had a man "give me a shower". It was intimate. It was more intimate than sex. Crazy huh? Why would I even think that? He was soaping my body & washing my hair (my BEAUTIFUL SEXY STRAIGHT HAIR) and I was thinking I was more exposed during this than sex. He was also silent unless I said something. So you only hear the water falling from the shower and you only feel his hands on you ... cleaning, stroking, caressing.
He did not even try anything. It was just about washing me. He knows what he is doing, doesn't he? Why is he doing this to me?
The best part ... I am being sarcastic here ... after the shower scene, he went to sleep. No joke. I did not get my sex. I did not get my sex! And I so wanted it! He was tired and stressed. Plus remember, he is old. hehe
And I am young!
I am so into him. I have become blind. The intimacy is too much.
I never had this before and it is scaring the crap out of me. I tell him to stop and he continues.
Yet he does not want to be my boyfriend at this time? WHAT?
I think I need to tell him we need to slow down and he needs to listen to me and do it. No more intimacy crap! Yes I love it but it is confusing me. Why would you do that when you do not want to be with them? Why???
I asked my friends ... I did not hear good things back.
The major theme ... do not let on how you feel ... the guy will run ... they are like wild animals and scare easily. Take a s-l-o-w step at a time. Quietly. Shhhh.
What a doozie. I saw Mr P last night after the Passion Party. For my friends that were at the Passion Party - you got a laugh when I RAN out the door due to a text that his children were in bed and I could come over. Kinda desperate but HE did not see it. Only y'all. And yes, I heard the laughter when I was getting in my car! Thanks!!
He gets me all worked up.
Well I did find out we are not exclusive. I am only seeing him at this point.
Yes I am serious. Yes it is shady. Yes it upsets me. Sigh ... yes I still want him.
I am so into him.
After THAT talk, he asked me to get into the shower. I was turned away from him. He washed me. I have taken showers with men in the past but it was either all about sex or all about saving time and getting washed quickly. I have never had a man "give me a shower". It was intimate. It was more intimate than sex. Crazy huh? Why would I even think that? He was soaping my body & washing my hair (my BEAUTIFUL SEXY STRAIGHT HAIR) and I was thinking I was more exposed during this than sex. He was also silent unless I said something. So you only hear the water falling from the shower and you only feel his hands on you ... cleaning, stroking, caressing.
He did not even try anything. It was just about washing me. He knows what he is doing, doesn't he? Why is he doing this to me?
The best part ... I am being sarcastic here ... after the shower scene, he went to sleep. No joke. I did not get my sex. I did not get my sex! And I so wanted it! He was tired and stressed. Plus remember, he is old. hehe
And I am young!
I am so into him. I have become blind. The intimacy is too much.
I never had this before and it is scaring the crap out of me. I tell him to stop and he continues.
Yet he does not want to be my boyfriend at this time? WHAT?
I think I need to tell him we need to slow down and he needs to listen to me and do it. No more intimacy crap! Yes I love it but it is confusing me. Why would you do that when you do not want to be with them? Why???
I asked my friends ... I did not hear good things back.
The major theme ... do not let on how you feel ... the guy will run ... they are like wild animals and scare easily. Take a s-l-o-w step at a time. Quietly. Shhhh.
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
This boy is all I think about
October 01, 2008
He is officially named Mr P.
Oh my word people!
We have so much chemistry. The passion. I love this lust stage. hehe. He is the "Mr Perfect". Some of you got this stupid email I sent a few months ago about my Mr Perfect this and Mr Perfect that ... and ... oh my ... oh my word ... he is better than that. Now I understand Mr P is not perfect. He is going to have flaws and issues but I have not found them yet.
Wait, there might be one. At my house last night I found out he put in false information on eHarmony about his DOB. He is 41. Turning 42 in December. I am 30. I set my age limit to 10 years so if he would have put his real age, we would never have matched. It does feel odd to desire a man 11 years older. Do I ever desire this man, oh my!
We see each other 3 times a week in the evenings and so far once a week at lunch. He calls me every day. Sometimes more than once. We email often now. We get along. We play. I can't get him out of my head.
I am not in love with him. There is just so much chemistry! I am pulled towards him. I have tried to pull away and slow down. I have TRIED! The chemistry will not let me. He will not let me.
What is up with that anyways? He keeps pushing me closer to the intimacy too. It is different than sex, it is intimacy. I think a big chunk my my wall has crumbled. It's been hit with a sledge hammer. I can't hold back anymore. Nor do I want to.
Wish me luck. This will be the best or the stupidest thing I have ever done since I became a mother.
He is officially named Mr P.
Oh my word people!
We have so much chemistry. The passion. I love this lust stage. hehe. He is the "Mr Perfect". Some of you got this stupid email I sent a few months ago about my Mr Perfect this and Mr Perfect that ... and ... oh my ... oh my word ... he is better than that. Now I understand Mr P is not perfect. He is going to have flaws and issues but I have not found them yet.
Wait, there might be one. At my house last night I found out he put in false information on eHarmony about his DOB. He is 41. Turning 42 in December. I am 30. I set my age limit to 10 years so if he would have put his real age, we would never have matched. It does feel odd to desire a man 11 years older. Do I ever desire this man, oh my!
We see each other 3 times a week in the evenings and so far once a week at lunch. He calls me every day. Sometimes more than once. We email often now. We get along. We play. I can't get him out of my head.
I am not in love with him. There is just so much chemistry! I am pulled towards him. I have tried to pull away and slow down. I have TRIED! The chemistry will not let me. He will not let me.
What is up with that anyways? He keeps pushing me closer to the intimacy too. It is different than sex, it is intimacy. I think a big chunk my my wall has crumbled. It's been hit with a sledge hammer. I can't hold back anymore. Nor do I want to.
Wish me luck. This will be the best or the stupidest thing I have ever done since I became a mother.
Monday, February 2, 2009
And then he kissed me ...
September 15th, 2008
Date #2
I went to his house late. 10 PM. We did this because I have my daughter weekend 1 and he has his children weekend 2. We are not matched up on our child free weekends. His children were in bed asleep.
He lives in a McMansion. No joke.
He took me out to his deck and we sat outside for approx 30 mins. We talked. It was very easy to talk to him. Found out we had a lot more in common. Found out he likes a woman to cook. I said "It was nice to meet you. Good-bye!". He thought that was funny. People, I am not a cook! I did mention the Once a Month Cooking club I am in and he was "looking forward to it". He also said I could buy dinner and act like I cooked it. Isn't that sweet? hehe
On the deck he told me I HAD to see the closet in his bedroom. I laughed and said "All my friends said you were gonna try to get me into your bedroom!" He was offended (joking) and said I could close my eyes as we walked to the closet. We both laughed at that.
We came into the house and he turned me just so. He gave me a kiss. Ohh! A kiss!! It was very nice. However it did make me uncomfortable for I was use to the 1st kiss being at the end of the 2nd date. Not at the beginning. Plus you know, I was awful chaste up to this point with the other men I have dated.
We looked at the closet. Ya, it's big. I've seen bigger.
I told him that. The look on his face was priceless. Was he expecting me to ohh and awe over his closet? I think he was.
We sat on the couch and watched the movie 21. It's about blackjack. He wanted to hold my hand then he wanted to hold both my hands. We had to sit right next to each other. OK - HERE IS THE DEAL ... I need that when I am in a relationship. I need the touching. I need the affection ... he was giving this to me. In a relationship I would be so damn happy. Now, I was uncomfortable again. I told him this. He was moving too fast. This is the 2nd date and I am not use to that speed. He understood and asked if he should stop holding my hand. The funny thing is I said no for I did enjoy it. It felt so good! He was massaging my hands. And honestly I was feeling a little hot & bothered ... IN THE GOOD WAY!
Moving along ... at one point I was really into the movie. It's a great movie! I hear from him, LOUD & sounding a little shocked and in awe "My GOD YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!". Ahh, thank you! Talk about tinglies going up and down your spine. We were going back and forth at one time and he asked me if I was "always full of shit". I said most of the time. He said great for he found that very attractive.
He was ornery. He was funny. He was flirty. He was making me want to jump him. hehe. I didn't. There were many sweet kisses.
At the end - about 1 AM, I told him I had to leave for I was really tired. He said OK and then I had to stay until I agreed to another date. He also said he had a lot of fun and he really liked me and was looking forward to seeing me again. I said next weekend. He said that was too far away. We agreed on a lunch date too.
He kissed me good-bye at my car. Due to all the kisses inside it felt so normal and natural. Hey, maybe I should start kissing at the beginning of the 2nd date.
He called me today (Monday) at work to set up the day of lunch. On the phone he said again he had a lot of fun. He was being flirty again.
So he likes me. Can you tell? I can tell. It makes me giddy. It makes me happy. However I feel the touchy feely is a little to fast. Don't get me wrong, I love it!! But not so soon. I need to make sure he understands he needs to slow that part down. I look forward to seeing him again.
2 dates week 1, 2 dates week 2. This is moving right along, isn't it? We will either be over real soon or getting married in 3 months. hehe.
Date #2
I went to his house late. 10 PM. We did this because I have my daughter weekend 1 and he has his children weekend 2. We are not matched up on our child free weekends. His children were in bed asleep.
He lives in a McMansion. No joke.
He took me out to his deck and we sat outside for approx 30 mins. We talked. It was very easy to talk to him. Found out we had a lot more in common. Found out he likes a woman to cook. I said "It was nice to meet you. Good-bye!". He thought that was funny. People, I am not a cook! I did mention the Once a Month Cooking club I am in and he was "looking forward to it". He also said I could buy dinner and act like I cooked it. Isn't that sweet? hehe
On the deck he told me I HAD to see the closet in his bedroom. I laughed and said "All my friends said you were gonna try to get me into your bedroom!" He was offended (joking) and said I could close my eyes as we walked to the closet. We both laughed at that.
We came into the house and he turned me just so. He gave me a kiss. Ohh! A kiss!! It was very nice. However it did make me uncomfortable for I was use to the 1st kiss being at the end of the 2nd date. Not at the beginning. Plus you know, I was awful chaste up to this point with the other men I have dated.
We looked at the closet. Ya, it's big. I've seen bigger.
I told him that. The look on his face was priceless. Was he expecting me to ohh and awe over his closet? I think he was.
We sat on the couch and watched the movie 21. It's about blackjack. He wanted to hold my hand then he wanted to hold both my hands. We had to sit right next to each other. OK - HERE IS THE DEAL ... I need that when I am in a relationship. I need the touching. I need the affection ... he was giving this to me. In a relationship I would be so damn happy. Now, I was uncomfortable again. I told him this. He was moving too fast. This is the 2nd date and I am not use to that speed. He understood and asked if he should stop holding my hand. The funny thing is I said no for I did enjoy it. It felt so good! He was massaging my hands. And honestly I was feeling a little hot & bothered ... IN THE GOOD WAY!
Moving along ... at one point I was really into the movie. It's a great movie! I hear from him, LOUD & sounding a little shocked and in awe "My GOD YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!". Ahh, thank you! Talk about tinglies going up and down your spine. We were going back and forth at one time and he asked me if I was "always full of shit". I said most of the time. He said great for he found that very attractive.
He was ornery. He was funny. He was flirty. He was making me want to jump him. hehe. I didn't. There were many sweet kisses.
At the end - about 1 AM, I told him I had to leave for I was really tired. He said OK and then I had to stay until I agreed to another date. He also said he had a lot of fun and he really liked me and was looking forward to seeing me again. I said next weekend. He said that was too far away. We agreed on a lunch date too.
He kissed me good-bye at my car. Due to all the kisses inside it felt so normal and natural. Hey, maybe I should start kissing at the beginning of the 2nd date.
He called me today (Monday) at work to set up the day of lunch. On the phone he said again he had a lot of fun. He was being flirty again.
So he likes me. Can you tell? I can tell. It makes me giddy. It makes me happy. However I feel the touchy feely is a little to fast. Don't get me wrong, I love it!! But not so soon. I need to make sure he understands he needs to slow that part down. I look forward to seeing him again.
2 dates week 1, 2 dates week 2. This is moving right along, isn't it? We will either be over real soon or getting married in 3 months. hehe.
Sunday, February 1, 2009
Easy in and out
September 12th, 2008
We meet for lunch. I was very nervous. I hate 1st dates! Thank God it is a lunch date. Easy in and out if it does not go well.
I see him standing at the entrance. I said his name. He nodded and smiled. I was so nervous I smiled back and walked right in. Let's just hurry up and sit down please!
I did notice he is not ugly. He is a decent looking man. He looks better in person.
We sit down and right off the bat he is joking with me, playing, laughing. It was great. I felt better but still nervous. I laughed a lot. I did feel at one time he was trying to "correct" my spirit. I am not sure how to explain it. We have a 10 year age gap and I guess at that moment I saw the age gap ...
He carried himself with confidence - which I find very sexy. He answered my serious questions the way I need them to be answered for me to continue seeing him. That is definitely in his favor. He was very flirty. He was into me. He asked me lots of questions. I found out he is very happy in his life. Loves his job, loves his current life but wants someone to share it with.
So far we agree on dating rules (IE not seeing each others children unless we feel there is something there) and that children come first. Very nice.
He did tell me he has gone on several dates (well I think it was 3) with eHarmony ladies and he has not asked anyone of the others out on a 2nd date. Truth? Don't know but I will believe it for now.
He asked me out on a 2nd date. Sat night. I told him I had to check my calendar. I would call and let him know. He called me later in the day to see if I could come. I said yes. We are going to his house. I get to see the McMansion. HEHE. THE HOUSE PEOPLE!! The house. Ya, the house. Oh gosh, am I feeling inferior again? But on the phone call today he said he had a really good time and was "very pleasantly surprised". Go me! I feel better again!
I need to come up with a name for him. My first name is Mr McMansion but that sounds like I am money hungry and I am not. Need to keep thinking on this.
We meet for lunch. I was very nervous. I hate 1st dates! Thank God it is a lunch date. Easy in and out if it does not go well.
I see him standing at the entrance. I said his name. He nodded and smiled. I was so nervous I smiled back and walked right in. Let's just hurry up and sit down please!
I did notice he is not ugly. He is a decent looking man. He looks better in person.
We sit down and right off the bat he is joking with me, playing, laughing. It was great. I felt better but still nervous. I laughed a lot. I did feel at one time he was trying to "correct" my spirit. I am not sure how to explain it. We have a 10 year age gap and I guess at that moment I saw the age gap ...
He carried himself with confidence - which I find very sexy. He answered my serious questions the way I need them to be answered for me to continue seeing him. That is definitely in his favor. He was very flirty. He was into me. He asked me lots of questions. I found out he is very happy in his life. Loves his job, loves his current life but wants someone to share it with.
So far we agree on dating rules (IE not seeing each others children unless we feel there is something there) and that children come first. Very nice.
He did tell me he has gone on several dates (well I think it was 3) with eHarmony ladies and he has not asked anyone of the others out on a 2nd date. Truth? Don't know but I will believe it for now.
He asked me out on a 2nd date. Sat night. I told him I had to check my calendar. I would call and let him know. He called me later in the day to see if I could come. I said yes. We are going to his house. I get to see the McMansion. HEHE. THE HOUSE PEOPLE!! The house. Ya, the house. Oh gosh, am I feeling inferior again? But on the phone call today he said he had a really good time and was "very pleasantly surprised". Go me! I feel better again!
I need to come up with a name for him. My first name is Mr McMansion but that sounds like I am money hungry and I am not. Need to keep thinking on this.
Friday, January 30, 2009
RICH man, POOR woman
Septermber 8th, 2008
As most of you know I am on Eharmony again. I was matched with a 40 year old. Damn, that sounds old, doesn't it? Well to put things into perspective, 30 sounds old and that is my age.
Anywho, we did the whole communication thing. I saw his photos. Good looking man. In a lot of the pictures you saw HUGE houses in the back ground. Like one, he is on the deck of the house and these HUGE McMansions are in the back. That's fine and dandy.
I called him last night. This was our first phone call. On the call he tells me things - not bragging but very matter of fact. He has boats. He has the McMansion in the picture - found that out by what part of town he lives in. He has multiple cars. HE HAS MONEY.
YEAH! I met a man that has money.
CRAP! I met a man that has money.
I have no money. I have no money. Yes, I am credit card debt free. However I do not have savings. I am living paycheck to paycheck. I do not have the fancy clothes. I do not have the money to get a bikini wax and get my hair "did" every month. I do not have the fancy toys. Dude, I need a new fridge and I can not buy one yet.
I felt inferior. He never asked me about my financial situation, he never asked me how much money I made ... nothing like that came up. I made myself feel inferior because I know my situation and I heard some of his.
He asked me out on a date. We decided on a lunch date.
I don't know if I want to go because how can a RICH man want a POOR woman like me?
And when did I start to think of myself as poor?
As most of you know I am on Eharmony again. I was matched with a 40 year old. Damn, that sounds old, doesn't it? Well to put things into perspective, 30 sounds old and that is my age.
Anywho, we did the whole communication thing. I saw his photos. Good looking man. In a lot of the pictures you saw HUGE houses in the back ground. Like one, he is on the deck of the house and these HUGE McMansions are in the back. That's fine and dandy.
I called him last night. This was our first phone call. On the call he tells me things - not bragging but very matter of fact. He has boats. He has the McMansion in the picture - found that out by what part of town he lives in. He has multiple cars. HE HAS MONEY.
YEAH! I met a man that has money.
CRAP! I met a man that has money.
I have no money. I have no money. Yes, I am credit card debt free. However I do not have savings. I am living paycheck to paycheck. I do not have the fancy clothes. I do not have the money to get a bikini wax and get my hair "did" every month. I do not have the fancy toys. Dude, I need a new fridge and I can not buy one yet.
I felt inferior. He never asked me about my financial situation, he never asked me how much money I made ... nothing like that came up. I made myself feel inferior because I know my situation and I heard some of his.
He asked me out on a date. We decided on a lunch date.
I don't know if I want to go because how can a RICH man want a POOR woman like me?
And when did I start to think of myself as poor?
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Ostrich Syndrome
August 2008
Can I just bury my head? I am getting these forward emails from my friends about how they became a couple with their man. Am I the ONLY single woman I know? Oh my word ... am I?
I sent a message back to STOP sending me the emails. I don't want to hear about their happiness. The response back? "Oh Darling Nikki, have fun with it". So after thinking about it I was like ... I'm game.
This is my email Darling Nikki style:
1. What are your first names? Darling Nikki & Mr Perfect
2. How long have you been together? a lifetime
3. How long did you know each other before you started dating? We meet on the 1st and were dating on the 2nd and married on the 3rd
4. Who asked who out? he did
5. How old are each of you/were you?I was 30, he was 27
6. What are your astrological signs? Pisces and whatever sign matches Pisces the best
7. How tall are each of you? I am 5'0 he is 5'9
8. Who's mother do you see the most? Mine
9. Who’s siblings do you see the most? his
10. Do you have any children together? We have 2, the most beautiful precious children ever. I do also have my daughter, her father died in a freak accident and Mr Perfect adopted her .. so really I have 3 of the most beautiful precious children ever.
11. What about pets? yes
12. If so, what kind? a cat, a dog, horses, ponies, birdies, a peacock, some mice named Jack & Gus Gus, deer ... wow, the list can go on and on
13. Which bill is the hardest on you as a couple? none, he makes a ton of money
14. How do each of you work? I am a stay at home mom and he does his Mr Perfect business
15. Is that what you went to school for? no
16. Did you go to the same school? no
17. Are you from the same hometown? no
18. Are you from the same hometown now? what kind of question is this? Mr Perfect & I live in a cottage in Hawaii. We also have a home in Italy shaped like a boot, a house in the mountains in Colorado, a log cabin in Maine, a mansion in Switzerland, a castle in Ireland ... really I think we need to downsize.
9. Who is the smartest? depends on the topic
20. Who is the most sensitive? me
17. What is your type of date restaurant??? any 4 star or the place around the corner that looks scary from the outside but has THE BEST food ever.
18. Where could be a place you could drag him to to shop with you? We have personal shoppers.
19. Where is the furthest you have traveled as a couple? Well we ARE going to the Moon next month.
21. Who is the most sexual? Tie. We have sex all the time.
22. Who has the best group of friends? All of our friends are wonderful. That includes you too!
23. Who has the craziest exes? Well since my daughter's father died in a freak accident we do not have any crazy Exs.
24. Who has the worst temper? Neither, we are Mr and Mrs Perfect
Did ya like that?? I was pretty proud of myself.
EHarmony is going OK. I have made it to open communication several times and then to phone calls a few. There is nothing to "write home about" so far. Where is my Mr Perfect for now?
Still no sex drive. However I am happy. I am really happy and I'm having a lot of fun.
Can I just bury my head? I am getting these forward emails from my friends about how they became a couple with their man. Am I the ONLY single woman I know? Oh my word ... am I?
I sent a message back to STOP sending me the emails. I don't want to hear about their happiness. The response back? "Oh Darling Nikki, have fun with it". So after thinking about it I was like ... I'm game.
This is my email Darling Nikki style:
1. What are your first names? Darling Nikki & Mr Perfect
2. How long have you been together? a lifetime
3. How long did you know each other before you started dating? We meet on the 1st and were dating on the 2nd and married on the 3rd
4. Who asked who out? he did
5. How old are each of you/were you?I was 30, he was 27
6. What are your astrological signs? Pisces and whatever sign matches Pisces the best
7. How tall are each of you? I am 5'0 he is 5'9
8. Who's mother do you see the most? Mine
9. Who’s siblings do you see the most? his
10. Do you have any children together? We have 2, the most beautiful precious children ever. I do also have my daughter, her father died in a freak accident and Mr Perfect adopted her .. so really I have 3 of the most beautiful precious children ever.
11. What about pets? yes
12. If so, what kind? a cat, a dog, horses, ponies, birdies, a peacock, some mice named Jack & Gus Gus, deer ... wow, the list can go on and on
13. Which bill is the hardest on you as a couple? none, he makes a ton of money
14. How do each of you work? I am a stay at home mom and he does his Mr Perfect business
15. Is that what you went to school for? no
16. Did you go to the same school? no
17. Are you from the same hometown? no
18. Are you from the same hometown now? what kind of question is this? Mr Perfect & I live in a cottage in Hawaii. We also have a home in Italy shaped like a boot, a house in the mountains in Colorado, a log cabin in Maine, a mansion in Switzerland, a castle in Ireland ... really I think we need to downsize.
9. Who is the smartest? depends on the topic
20. Who is the most sensitive? me
17. What is your type of date restaurant??? any 4 star or the place around the corner that looks scary from the outside but has THE BEST food ever.
18. Where could be a place you could drag him to to shop with you? We have personal shoppers.
19. Where is the furthest you have traveled as a couple? Well we ARE going to the Moon next month.
21. Who is the most sexual? Tie. We have sex all the time.
22. Who has the best group of friends? All of our friends are wonderful. That includes you too!
23. Who has the craziest exes? Well since my daughter's father died in a freak accident we do not have any crazy Exs.
24. Who has the worst temper? Neither, we are Mr and Mrs Perfect
Did ya like that?? I was pretty proud of myself.
EHarmony is going OK. I have made it to open communication several times and then to phone calls a few. There is nothing to "write home about" so far. Where is my Mr Perfect for now?
Still no sex drive. However I am happy. I am really happy and I'm having a lot of fun.
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
Going once, going twice ...
June 2008-July 2008
Who will I date next? I am signed up for EHarmony. I have high hopes for this. I am ready to meet a man I have chemistry with. They seem so few and far between. It is not an automatic thing for me. I have not felt that chemistry in such a long time. Will it ever show itself again? I am disappointed in the number of matches on EHarmony. There are very few. Am I that hard to pair up with?
Oh but here is one ... right here, right here, right here!
I sent him questions.
He responded right back. Hey! He must be online!
I answered his questions and sent more.
He responded right back! Oh!! Be still my heart. It's beating like crazy.
I write. He writes back. Again. And again! We complete the entire communication within 10 minutes!
It's time for open communication.
I am SOOOO excited! <insert hand claps>
I ask him questions. He replies back!! With answers. hmm. I sent another with more questions. He replies back! Just answers again. Dude! Don't you know you need to ask a woman questions??!!!! Show some freakin interest!!
I wanted to write that. I did not.
OK, this one is a dud. Crap.
I decided to change my search radius from 5 miles to 60 miles.
Oh my word! I was going from 4 new matches a week to 20 a day! This is gonna be fun!
Who will I date next? I am signed up for EHarmony. I have high hopes for this. I am ready to meet a man I have chemistry with. They seem so few and far between. It is not an automatic thing for me. I have not felt that chemistry in such a long time. Will it ever show itself again? I am disappointed in the number of matches on EHarmony. There are very few. Am I that hard to pair up with?
Oh but here is one ... right here, right here, right here!
I sent him questions.
He responded right back. Hey! He must be online!
I answered his questions and sent more.
He responded right back! Oh!! Be still my heart. It's beating like crazy.
I write. He writes back. Again. And again! We complete the entire communication within 10 minutes!
It's time for open communication.
I am SOOOO excited! <insert hand claps>
I ask him questions. He replies back!! With answers. hmm. I sent another with more questions. He replies back! Just answers again. Dude! Don't you know you need to ask a woman questions??!!!! Show some freakin interest!!
I wanted to write that. I did not.
OK, this one is a dud. Crap.
I decided to change my search radius from 5 miles to 60 miles.
Oh my word! I was going from 4 new matches a week to 20 a day! This is gonna be fun!
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